This will be a short but heartfelt comment on a mans responsibility to a woman.
I actually wrote some of this on my sexual threat article but I now believe it’s worthy of amplifying into a seperate post.
Part of the reason I didn’t get involved in the Pick Up Industry 6 years or so ago when I had ample chance was because even then I didn’t like a lot of the unhealthy connotations – the false and misleading advertising / marketing. The promise of screwing lots of girls ‘with no chance of rejection and no work on your part’ or ‘one weird magnet’ Yeah, right.
The focus was purely on the end result, and be damned what you needed to do to get there.
Ironically, I was actually an example of the most ruthless of all of them, in terms of actually closing, sealing the deal, getting the girls into bed. When I say ruthless, I mean having the ability to lead and seduce her if there was just the tiniest hint of a chance. I was the Micheal Schumacher of game – I “won” where I really shouldn’t have, maximising every single opportunity. As Murray Walker said, “give him the slightest chance and he’ll be like a ferret up a drainpipe”. (You may have noticed how I love pulling out quotes from thin air. I used to play this as a game as I have a weird memory and can remember 10s of minutes of film dialogue, and quote it at opportunistic moments in conversation). Anyway…..
I’m not repeating this now to big myself up but to make a point. I believe you need to have this ability if you want results but you need to balance it out too with the desire to protect, and look after the emotional health of your girl.
I’ve come to realise this over the last 2-3 years of my pick up journey.
As evolved men trying to be the very best we can be, we have a responsibility to protect women. Notwithstanding the amount of mixed up, damaged, bitchy, nasty,women out there. Notwithstanding the Darwinistic cruelty of the dating world. Notwithstanding the concept of Hypergamy (I acutally give a nod to this but it’s not something i’ve given a lot of thought about)
When you see feminity at its most pure, and you see that every time you are curt with your girl, or pay her no attention, or you disrespect her…She dies inside a little.
You see the power you wield over her.
How can you be any other way?
Please think about it…
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Socialkenny
As to the marketing part and the promise of banging every girl without rejection, I don’t know from where that notion came(although it is out there), but the gurus I’d studies materials from, had always said that you’re gonna get rejected more than you get laid(pure #’s game).
Only the marketing gurus/fake PUA’s I’ve heard say that you won’t get rejected. But all the official coaches has always taught rejections is a must and will happen all the time. I still don’t think that should’ve deterred you Steve from jumping in years ago bro’.
SteveJabba Post author
I guess the marketing must work otherwise Pick Up Companies wouldn’t do it.
I don’t agree that it’s a pure numbers game actually. There are a host of things you can do to stack the odds in your favour. And “rejection” isn’t necessarily rejection (see my kiss close video for an example of this).
I didn’t jump in a number of years ago for a variety of reasons, part of which was what I mentioned in this post. I talked more about it in the “About Me” section of the website.
Thanks for the comment!
Steve
Socialkenny
I wonder if it works for a while then fizzles out where you have to rebrand and come with a new approach to marketing (that sort of marketing). But it’s good to know you’re legit and not a marketing guru lol!
I’d read your about me section. Didn’t know you were cool with Richard La Ruina. That’s pretty huge!
Steve
Yes Rich is a good guy and i’ve always had the greatest of respect for him.
He actually got most of his natural game straight from me, I didn’t know until fairly recently but i’m mentioned in most of his videos, books, on his blog, etc.
Socialkenny
On the note of responsibility, you made some crucial points that newbies cannot really grasp right now. I feel that a newbie’s mindset is stricly to fuck, fuck like crazy, and forget responsibility (as far as her well-being). Not that fucking for the sake of it is bad(absolutely not)! And the classic PUA saying of leave her better than you met her comes into what you’re saying.
Personally, I don’t care for the well-being of any woman I have sex with. But it’s the ethical thing to do I guess lol!?
3rd Millenium Men
Great post Steve, and spot on. Feeling bad for leading a girl on who really likes me when I just wanted her for some physicality. We have a big responsibility and we should abide by it!
sosheba
Steve, I like your post and I think you’re handsome.
How can you tell when a man loves a woman?
SteveJabba Post author
You can see it in his eyes and feel it in his kiss…..
Glad you noticed that I am handsome!
evgeni
Steve .can you write an article about hypergamy-i din’t get it from the link.
Adam
My girl broke my heart cus I couldn’t let her go cus I couldn’t give her what she wanted. Ultimately she got over me before I was ready and got with a new guy leaving me in her dust and feeling abandoned. She thinks I hate her — I have had those feelings — and trying to be the bigger man who has higher thoughts is so hard. I’m hoping I’ll be happy for her eventually. It’s been 5 months and I still get jealous and angry and upset.
P.S Recently, I had two dates with a girl who I consider to be the next level from my ex (and the reason why I didn’t want to be with her long term), I have a mini crush on her and failed to escalate both times. Is it push throughable or do I need to get other girls as hot as her?
Thanks Steve
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rivelino
beautiful and fascinating. something for me to think about.
Tiger
Hi Steve , this article does good thing of highlighting imp stuff . I feel – taking advantage , being opportunistic and shady happens in many other areas . Like friends who just contact You to party , make one spend money on them , a bad business partnership , a manipulative job contract .
More then leaving a good impression , its about what a person really – Is . Either good or bad , without any hidden agendas .