Know Thyself : Young Schema Questionnaire

February 8, 2013 | 12 Comments

***UPDATED***

On the “About Me” section of this website, I mentioned that I attended CBT sessions some years ago, which helped me to get over my ongoing anxiety and depression issues.  (Ongoing at that time – I have pretty much beaten them now).

Quite a few guys have asked about this, and recently a very cool student of mine also mentioned it, he wanted to know himself better.  So, I have dug around and actually found the questionnaire that was given to me by the CBT therapist, that allowed him to diagnose my most powerful belief systems.

The Questionnaire can be found here:

http://www.schematherapy.com/id53.htm

I recommend you do the Questionnaire first, then read the rest of this post.  So, do it now.

The items are intentionally grouped with similar themes.  There is a *, then a 2 letter code at the end of each group which corresponds to a particular schema.

After you’ve done the Questionnaire, look for any schemas where you have groups with 3 or more questions where you score 5 or 6 within a group.

If you do score 3 or more questions with a 5 or 6 above, this COULD be a significant schema for you.  I recall I scored very highly on abandonment and entitlement (can you see how that would make me naturally lean towards being good with women but also introduce lots of problems?)

Now you are probably not a trained CBT therapist or psychologist – but neverthelss, this can be a fascinating way of seeing what your most powerful belief systems are, and give you a clue as to why you do the things you do.

In my case, I identified belief systems that needed “rounding out” – toning down, and the CBT therapist was able to give me specific strategies to do that which made me into a more balanced person, over time.  You CAN change your belief systems.  This is actually the linchpin of what I teach – inculcating the powerful “cornerstone” belief systems I talk about all the time.

Now once you’ve done the Questionnaire, read this description of the schemas and you can then pinpoint which are your most powerful, driving beliefs:

http://www.schematherapy.com/id73.htm

I’d be interested in getting your feedback on this.  It’s potentially very valuable.

***UPDATE ON INTERPRETING THE QUESTIONNAIRE***

The following is from a reader who has experience in psychology and interpreting these questionnaires.  So:

“I’d say: put your answers in an excel sheet. Then divide the total sum of every category by the total number of questions in that category.

It’s highly advised people do this, because a lot of people have the tendency to answer in extremes i.e. 1-2′s and 5-6′s. When an extreme answerer then sees more than three 5-6′s in 80% of the categories and is not assisted by a therapist. This can really screw with them in a “see!-i-knew-it-i’m-totaly-fucked-up-in-everyway-imaginable-while-steve-only-had-2-categorial-flaws”-way.
Therefore i advice to devide the score by the amount of questions in a category, and then pick the 2 or 3 categories that give you the highest score. Thereby correcting for extreme-answer-tendencies.”

12 thoughts on “Know Thyself : Young Schema Questionnaire

  1. YouSoWould

    It would appear that I am entitled, and hyper critical! The summary of those two sections is me down to a t – it’s not come as much of a surprise in fairness, I already knew that about myself.

    I was often called arrogant when I was younger, and I’ve never really felt that the rules apply to me. My entitlement is somewhat countered by my hyper critical nature however – despite believing I deserve the best, I have trouble giving myself credit for things. I am my own harshest critic and am often told I am too hard on myself, despite having achieved more than probably 99% of my peers. I have exacting standards of what I expect from myself and others.

    What do I do now I’ve got my diagnosis doc!

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    • SteveJabba Post author

      I think you know the answer to that one already!

      These things are great. My therapist told me

      Receive, not transmit
      Listen to people more
      Don’t talk over them

      All signs of excessive entitlement schema.

      I’ve learned to empathise more with people over the last 4 years or so and actually listen to what they say. Having a previous job as a business analyst helped, and this job does too, it forces me to empathise and try to propose solutions to other peoples problems.

      It takes time but you can really chip away at your natural tendencies and change them, if you are concious of them.

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    • SteveJabba Post author

      By the way, with that cocktail of beliefs, I can see how it would lead to unhappiness because nothing / nobody would ever be good enough..

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      • YouSoWould

        As you say, I too quickly learned to temper my entitlement as I became more socially aware as I grew up. I’m not regarded as arrogant these days, more just tongue-in-cheek cocky, and most people consider me open and approachable.

        One issue I’ve had over the years with being hyper critical in the case of women, is that almost none of them ignite any spark of attraction within me. And then in the very rare case that I do find one, despite my best efforts, I cannot help but romanticise a notion of them in my own mind, pedestalising the proverbial unicorn, which invariably leads to trouble, what with high value western women having a particularly pronounced tendency to immediately lose attraction when you man down to any extent. But then that’s what we learn game for isn’t it!

        Anyway, all interesting stuff. Did you ever do the Myers-Briggs?

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  2. Clinton

    Just spent a couple hours doing this and the two predominant traits that came out for me were

    Overvigilance & Inhibition (self-suppression)
    and
    Other-Directedness (focusing on others’ desires, feelings and responses too much)

    which both seem to be strongly related.

    It was an interesting test; the result is spot on. Just wish I knew what to do about it.

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    • Clinton

      Since you’re interested, I could point out the results seem to be specifically EMOTIONAL INHIBITION and SUBJUGATION.

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    • SteveJabba Post author

      Well it would seem to me that you need to start putting yourself first more.

      Actually that is a very long post in iteslf, it’s sometihng I do naturally and it does help a lot with pickup.

      I must stress, I am not a trained psychologist.

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  3. Joel

    Hey Steve,

    Absolutely love your stuff. Your articles are on the same level op helpfulness to me as The blueprint by Tyler was a while back. Your stuff and infield footage has helped me to get (still ongoing process) to the next level and your infields are amazing, shame (for us haha) you’re in a relationship atm. You write really well about inner game especially, keep it up!

    Anyway, I actualy have a degree in psychology, and as a tip to anyone who has done the questionaire. I’d say: put your answers in an excel sheet. Then divide the total sum of every category by the total number of questions in that category.

    It’s highly advised people do this, because a lot of people have the tendency to answer in extremes i.e. 1-2’s and 5-6’s. When an extreme answerer then sees more than three 5-6’s in 80% of the categories and is not assisted by a therapist. This can really screw with them in a “see!-i-knew-it-i’m-totaly-fucked-up-in-everyway-imaginable-while-steve-only-had-2-categorial-flaws”-way.
    Therefore i advice to devide the score by the amount of questions in a category, and then pick the 2 or 3 categories that give you the highest score. Thereby correcting for extreme-answer-tendencies.

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    • SteveJabba Post author

      Hey man thanks for the comments and the praise, really appreciated.

      I’m going to copy and paste your advice and add it to the main post, to give people more guidance.

      Re infields : I do intend to do more. Lots more.

      I want to showcase it all, what i’ve done so far isn’t really representative…I’m really looking forward to it.

      It’s definitely on the cards for the next 6 months. Definitely.

      Thanks a lot mate!

      Steve

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  4. EacHTimE

    Hi Steve.

    I love your blog and is really insightful

    According to the test the biggest issues I have are EMOTIONAL INHIBITION and SUBJUGATION.

    It’s something quite strong in me and I never was able to really get over it. When I drink these problems disappear for the moment and I’m free but naturally they come after.

    I would love to feel that freedom without alcohol and I avoid using alcohol at all but I feel like it’s impossible to get even close to that freedom sober. That naturally affects my relations with girls since it blocks real and honest connection I could possibly have with them since I’m blocked with shame.

    Although I have these issues I’m trying to put myself more and face situations that scare me with a more jolly and positive attitude. It’s very hard sometimes but I suppose that’s what I have to do and there is no easy solution for anything.

    Keep up the good work with these posts!!

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  5. JJVR

    Well, I just finished the test.

    I have big scores on ET (4,72) & IS (4,86), which together form the IMPAIRED LIMITS domain. I also got 3,94 on MA and 3,4 on SI.

    I don’t really know to use that information to my advantage. Do you have any suggestions?

    P.S: This is the first time I ever visit your website. I’m liking it so far….

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