On the “About Me” section of this website, I mentioned that I attended CBT sessions some years ago, which helped me to get over my ongoing anxiety and depression issues. (Ongoing at that time – I have pretty much beaten them now).
Quite a few guys have asked about this, and recently a very cool student of mine also mentioned it, he wanted to know himself better. So, I have dug around and actually found the questionnaire that was given to me by the CBT therapist, that allowed him to diagnose my most powerful belief systems.
The Questionnaire can be found here:
I recommend you do the Questionnaire first, then read the rest of this post. So, do it now.
The items are intentionally grouped with similar themes. There is a *, then a 2 letter code at the end of each group which corresponds to a particular schema.
After you’ve done the Questionnaire, look for any schemas where you have groups with 3 or more questions where you score 5 or 6 within a group.
If you do score 3 or more questions with a 5 or 6 above, this COULD be a significant schema for you. I recall I scored very highly on abandonment and entitlement (can you see how that would make me naturally lean towards being good with women but also introduce lots of problems?)
Now you are probably not a trained CBT therapist or psychologist – but neverthelss, this can be a fascinating way of seeing what your most powerful belief systems are, and give you a clue as to why you do the things you do.
In my case, I identified belief systems that needed “rounding out” – toning down, and the CBT therapist was able to give me specific strategies to do that which made me into a more balanced person, over time. You CAN change your belief systems. This is actually the linchpin of what I teach – inculcating the powerful “cornerstone” belief systems I talk about all the time.
Now once you’ve done the Questionnaire, read this description of the schemas and you can then pinpoint which are your most powerful, driving beliefs:
I’d be interested in getting your feedback on this. It’s potentially very valuable.
***UPDATE ON INTERPRETING THE QUESTIONNAIRE***
The following is from a reader who has experience in psychology and interpreting these questionnaires. So:
“I’d say: put your answers in an excel sheet. Then divide the total sum of every category by the total number of questions in that category.
It’s highly advised people do this, because a lot of people have the tendency to answer in extremes i.e. 1-2′s and 5-6′s. When an extreme answerer then sees more than three 5-6′s in 80% of the categories and is not assisted by a therapist. This can really screw with them in a “see!-i-knew-it-i’m-totaly-fucked-up-in-everyway-imaginable-while-steve-only-had-2-categorial-flaws”-way.
Therefore i advice to devide the score by the amount of questions in a category, and then pick the 2 or 3 categories that give you the highest score. Thereby correcting for extreme-answer-tendencies.”